Doeas love determine the rest of our life ?

A question that i am sure most of us had asked before , sice we mostly follow our hearts , no matter where it  takes us …  how many times it took us to great places and how many other times it took us to bad places … all depends on how compatible we ae with each other ….can we say that LOVE is everything ? after all we know it is something that mostly can not last forever . but on the other hand we can not live without it .. is it not only the reason we enjoy life ? but also the cause for all out mishaps in life ? a reason for all of our problems as well ?

How many do we meet in life that we can say WE  HAVE A TRUE  UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ?  i am sure not many , many of us had given up tha hope ,or truly don’t believe in one .. so the big question still being asked till this day  WHAT IS LOVE ALL ABOUT ?

do you have an opinion….??

We all discuss, talk, spend fortune ,just to find LOVE, but in actuality we really become so busy in  our everyday life , we forget that we found it , and we forget to invest the time and efforts it needs to grow. Just imagine you are running a business, i am sure you would put 24/7 in it if you need to  in order to grow and make it successful, Romance and Love is the same as anything else we work for , it is just like our garden that we take care of , water it , and feed it with new flowers , why we tend to forget that we had found Love after we invest so much to find it ?……

אנו היצורים עלי אדמות עם רגשות, צרכים ותשוקות , בחיפוש תמידי לאהבה , שעל פי מחשבותינו הינה התכונה העיקרית שמניעה את מערכות היחסים בעולמנו ומשתוקקים להכרויות חדשות

האם קיימת אהבה ממבט ראשון ? או שזו סטיגמה מופרחת וללא בסיס אמיתי. אחרי הכל מה שאנו נשארים איתו לטווח ארוך זו האישיות שיש לכל אחד מאיתנו, וההתחברות המנטלית…. אם זה במערכות יחסים אישיות, או במערכות יחסים עסקיות אפילו, בסופו של דבר אנו נמשכים או נוטים לצידו של הצד שאנו מתחברים אליו מנטלית , באם זה קישור אישי או קישור עיסקי..  אז פה נשאלת השאלה האמיתית …. האם אכן קיים בשבילנו

? FACE2LOVE

או שמשיכה חיצונית אינסטנקטיבית היא דבר חולף

את השאלה הגדולה הזו אני משאיר לקהל הקוראים שלנו

When we start our relationships we have no idea where its going to lead , and no matter at what age…but what keeps our love going ?  is it the Romance ? our desires? or simply our personalities?

it can be the combination of all of the above, aside from the fact we must be compatible with each other…

So here we are standing in the middle of the Love field and kind of lost…  we don’t want to lose it, but we do not want also to take it for granted, after all relationships have a strange bad habit of getting into a routine as we discussed earlier…so what one should do to keep the flame going without trying hard everyday remembering not to take it  for granted.

I have been in many of those relations , where all of a sudden after a while we stop trying , or not trying hard enough to make ourselves feel good .

why is it always the ones we fear of losing that we try harder for ? a good questionindeed, but all we have to do and keep remembering is that we enjoy the romance in our relations , and try to keep it that way all the time, and NOT ONLY for the other side , but mostly for US.

any experiences out there ?

Once we meet our “love mate” but not sure it is our soul mate the relationship takes on a different face, and the qualities changes. however the question is are we  getting into a routine in our relationship and take them for granted ? and the most important question asked ” is routine mostly pose as a  love relationship killer”?

Every relationship have its own routine , sooner or later it shows its ugly face, and the biggest enemy of all is actually OUR ATTITUDE AND EXPECTATIONS from any long term relationship we have in life, if it is marriage or otherwise, none of us prepare for what the relations going to look like in the years to come, and why no relationship in this world feel the same after a long while …why we dont feel always like we felt in the first year ? neither one of the parties changed, not in personality oe behavior ….so what mostly  happens to our relations in the long run?? i would think if any of us have a definite answer w can avoid all break ups , divorces, and heartache to many in this world.

However in my opinion most of us LOVE to fall in LOVE every time again and again, and once that feeling of a new romance, tension, and butterflies in the stomach is taken for granted , and the relationship transfer to the next level of “getting used” to each other and into a ROUTINE, we also lose that “FALLING IN LOVE ” feeling, which also follows by  great disappointments, not a disappointment from our partner by any means, but a disappointment   from our own feelings and expectations from the relationship.

We all grew up learning and reading about endless fairy tales that lasts forever till the day WE DEPART this world, and w promise such promises to each other when we exchange woes in marriage , and in front of many witnesses…… so why things feel and seems different few years later down the road? is it really the  actual relations we have ? did  we change so drastically and so fast ? or it is merely our expectations of such relationship???…..

After many bumps in the way and few years to overcome it all, they had stayed together and got married  with nothing much to start with.

Being a young couple in NYC it was not an easy task, however the relationship and partnership developed in a fast pace, and most likely their achievements was a direct correlation of their relationship and a by product of their life.

Even living in a small apartment did not make it impossible to move out to a nice Long Island Neighborhood and owning a house after 2 years of marriage.

The peace of mind people enjoy at home from their daily relations , reduces the stress we encounter at work, and once these two balance each other the  success with their career rises.

Many say that a good relationship at home or with your partner , leads  to a success in your career, and more over even to longer life …

So in turn we benefit 2 fold ….happiness with your partner will lead to happiness at work , and excelling at your career.

I am sure if you ask most men and/ or women you wil find that fact to be true , even though we tend at times to think that family or happiness in relationship prevents advancement in your career.

After their first date they had seen each other on a regular basis , fell deeply in love , and overcome some family obstacles together… and then it was time for her to go back to college ….and be separated from whom she loved ….was it only a summer romance ? or is it a long lasting relations for many years to come …. only time will tell …and will they endure the test of nature ? far and away…in 2 different worlds…can real LOVE overcome all of that ?

He made every effort to travel and meet with her …and on occasions she would travel to him and keep the  passion burning  for a whole year until she graduated college an come home closer….will it last ?  is it possible ??

The weekend was almost over , and they decided to contact each other during the week…

on Monday when the phone rang Greg was surprise to hear Judy voice on the other end of the line so early in the day already….but they set to have a FIRST DATE the day after …

He picked her up from home  (as it still was a summer break from college) and they headed to the big city fo the night ….walk around the festive atmosphere in Greenwich Village.. and having one of the best first dates ever ..  they already knew that night  that they will see each other again and again …

Are GREAT first dates and indication for the relationship 2 people can have in the months or years to come ?? or they are only what we want to imagine ..?

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GB